This is not my favorite time of year. The weather is terrible. The excitement of the holidays is over. No more great deals online. No more cheesy Hallmark movies. The Christmas lights on the house--those ones that looked so pretty and festive last month--overnight morphed into a twinkling little chore as you realized they must come down.
But the worst part of this time of year, to me anyway, is all of the resolution talk. Things you should be doing that you're not. Things you enjoy doing that you need to stop. I get e-newsletters every day, multiple times a day, about how to set resolutions that will stick; about how to make sure that this December I don't feel like a failure because I didn't...well...fill in the blank with whatever should nags at you each year. And it's exhausting. It's exhausting to feel like no matter how much you're doing, you should be doing more.
So, I don't make resolutions.
Don't get me wrong, I'm all for making your life better if you feel like there's some facet of it that's unhealthy or unbalanced. If there are things that you know you want to do or improve or change because you see a life that's happier or healthier that way, go for it.
But what I'm not all in for is resolving to do more for the sake of doing more. Resolving for resolving's sake.
Of pressuring ourselves and others to make grand sweeping proclamations, not because they bring us something we value, but because everyone is doing it. Resolving for January's sake.
Of distracting ourselves with tasks from the time we wake until the time we fall asleep, such that we rob ourselves of the peace, self-awareness and insight that often comes from time spent being quiet. Resolving for avoidance's sake.
I guess what I'm saying is that in this time of New-Year-New-You talk, it's okay to decide not to buy-in. To decide that you're going to give yourself the space and quiet you need to determine what, if anything, is worthy of change in your life. To decide that anytime is a good time to do more of what brings you joy--January doesn't have a monopoly on that.