Give Yourself Permission

I have the very best doctor. I found her through a Google search for, "best doctor in (my city)." Patients had given her amazing reviews online and so I called and got a spot as a patient. Even though I've now moved about an hour away, I still go to her. She's awesome in so many ways. She never makes you feel like she's got somewhere else to be, even though I know she's got a full schedule of patients. She has a sign above the scale in her office that says, "It's Just a Number." And she shares my first name :-) 

During one of the first appointments I had with her, I was lamenting my weight. How it had gotten out of control and how hard I was trying  to lose it without success. I was tired. And stressed. And basically just miserable. 

She asked me about my schedule. How much sleep did I get? What did I eat? What was going on at work? How many hours was I working between my two jobs? What was my commute like? What kind of social support did I have? I answered all of her questions and then prepared myself for the diet and exercise recommendations--the tough love--I was sure was on the way. 

But instead of a lecture. Instead of warnings. Instead of a prescription for Weight Watchers or the local gym, she said...

Sleep. She told me my only job right now was to make sure I got 7-9 hours of sleep every night and then figure out which quantity of hours made me feel my best. That’s it. I didn’t need to worry about changing my diet. Or getting up at the crack of dawn to exercise.

Just sleep. 

And when I had done that consistently for a few weeks, I could add in one other healthy activity. Just one.

She gave me a tremendous gift in that moment—the permission to be kind to myself. I am telling you, when she said “just sleep” I felt like crying, I was so happy. And relieved.

Sleep? Sleep I could do. Take everything else off the list for now and just focus on sleep? Yes. Yes, please.

I had to trust that if I did that one thing, that I would know when I was ready to add more.

And I did. One day I woke up and felt like trying to exercise again.

I had to reset a couple of times. I tried to do too much, too fast. But I caught myself each time and went back to the basics. Back to sleep. Then adding one thing at a time.

There are good reasons why my doctor had me focus on sleep first. There is not a single function of the body that does not rely, in large or small part, upon getting adequate sleep. Here are just a few:

  • Sleep helps to regulate your hormones, including the hormone that generates feelings of hunger (ghrelin) and the one that gives you the signal of being satiated (leptin). If you don’t get enough sleep, the former goes up and the latter goes down. So, you feel hungry more often and have trouble feeling full, both of which can lead you to eat more.
  • Your body repairs itself during sleep. Your muscles, blood vessels, heart and other major organs use the time when you are asleep to fix damage and (in the case of your muscles) increase mass. If you exercise, sleep is when that microscopic damage you did to your muscles during your workout gets repaired and additional muscle fibers are generated.
  • Your immune system relies on sleep to function at its optimal level. Inadequate rest leaves you vulnerable to infections like the common cold, but also to chronic disease. Studies have found a relationship between insufficient sleep and an increased risk of heart disease, kidney disease, high blood pressure and stroke.
  • Your ability to complete basic and complex tasks at work, school or at home is compromised. Things can take longer, and you are more prone to making mistakes when sleep deficient. The National Institutes of Health reports that, “after several nights of losing sleep—even a loss of just 1–2 hours per night—your ability to function suffers as if you haven't slept at all for a day or two.” Your memory, athletic performance, creative powers and the ability to learn new things are all improved with adequate sleep.

Okay, so how much sleep is enough and how do we make sure we are consistently getting enough sleep? For adults ages 18-64, the National Sleep Foundation (yes, sleep is so important there are research foundations dedicated to it!), recommends between 7-9 hours per night. For adults 65 and older, the recommended range is 7-8 hours. They have a sleep duration recommendations chart, which you can access here.

The foundation also has tips for ensuring a good night’s sleep, including: sticking to a sleep schedule (even on the weekends); exercising regularly; avoiding caffeine, alcohol and using electronics in the hours before bedtime; and making sure your bedroom is dark, quiet and not too warm or too cold.

Here's some homework for you, if you're up for it. If you aren't getting your 7-9 hours, commit to doing that and determining your magic number of hours. It's 9 for me. Come up with your own bedtime ritual to follow too. Maybe you light your favorite scented candle and read for an hour before sleep. Maybe you do some yoga (there are some great evening yoga dvds out there). Maybe you meditate, or journal or just sit and think about your day.

And let us know how it goes!

What I'd Buy Again

There's a particular kind of video that all of the beauty vloggers I follow on YouTube have made; some of them several times over. And it's some variation on the theme of, if they lost all of their makeup and skincare products, which things would they absolutely go out and buy again right away. It's an interesting exercise, especially for people who have massive collections of makeup. I do not, but sometimes even the relatively small amount of products I have feel like too much. Like I can't really "see" everything I've got because there are too many options. I thought that theme could be adapted to fitness, which is what I'm going to attempt to do here. 

If somehow I lost all of my fitness stuff--weights, bands, mats, workout clothing, shoes, DVD's--what would I go out and replace immediately? What would I need in order to stick with my workouts? I narrowed it down to a few essentials. So, here we go...

Dumbbells. I would definitely get at least two sets of dumbbells, maybe three--a heavier set and a lighter set at least. 

Resistance Bands. I would get a few of these, mostly for lower body stuff. 

My Asics Training Shoes. I have tried lots of different brands of shoe, and Asics are hands-down my favorites. I usually get them on sale at Kohl's or DSW.

Extra Thick Workout Mat. This I couldn't live without. I workout at home a lot and we have hardwood floors. So any floor exercise would be miserable without this mat. 

Jessica Smith's Boost Metabolism and Muscle DVD. I thought a lot about which DVD I would choose if I lost all of mine, and I settled on this one. If you've read some of my previous posts, you know I've tried many, many, many DVDs in my time. I picked this one because there are three strength-training workouts included and they are effective and safe ones. By opting for different modifications on the exercises and playing around with the weight of the dumbbells I used, I could make this work as my strength-training routine for quite a while. 

High-Rise Cropped Yoga Pants from Old Navy. If I'm honest, I would probably look on ThredUp for my favorite Lucy brand cropped leggings, but since I can't predict what they'll have at any given time, I chose these ones. Old Navy has some good, inexpensive active wear, including these pants which are about $15. 

Workout Tank from Athleta. Again, I'd check ThredUp for a Lucy tank, but this one is good too and at a decent price point. 

Stability Ball. I debated whether or not I needed this, but ultimately its versatility won me over. I love the variety of exercises I can do on it, and it's one of the ways I work on balance training. So, it made the list. 

There you have it. A relatively short list, but it's truly what I would purchase again if I had to. I've got more than this in my home gym now, but these are my essentials. All of this stuff can be found secondhand, if you have the patience. I've found workout equipment of all kinds on Craigslist and ThredUp is the first place I look for clothes. 

Act Now, Feel Later

I used to think motivation (for workouts or anything else) was a feeling that led to action. But I think that was wrong. Now I believe that action generates the feeling, rather than the other way around. That's a good thing, because feelings are transitory. And I don't want something transitory as the foundation upon which I base my life decisions, especially the ones that pertain to my health. I really don't. It's too important. 

What I want are habits.

What I want are things that make acting in a healthy way, even when I really don't feel like it, easier. Foolproof.

What I want is to set-up systems that support my goals.

What I want is to make sure it's as difficult as possible to get in my own way, because I know I will try. Basically.

Here are some things I do that ensure my workouts happen when the feeling of motivation appears to have taken a long sabbatical, far, far away.

Put on the workout clothes. If I can get myself dressed, I'm halfway there. Once the clothes are on it feels silly not to take them on a field trip to the gym. 

Only commit to 10 minutes. The upside to this little trick is that even if I stopped after 10 minutes, that's 10 minutes more than nothing. But once I've done 10 minutes, I'm probably going to finish the whole thing because, again, acting generates motivation. But the knowledge that I could stop if I wanted to is often enough to get me to the workout.

Exercise first thing in the morning. If I wait until later in the day, I'm way more likely to fill up my time with other things and/or be too tired. Working out when the house is still quiet and I'm not fully awake and immersed in the activities of the day, is actually kind of awesome. There's a great quote I found on Pinterest recently that says something to the effect of, "Workout early before your body figures out what you're doing." That's a fair statement some days.

Find the fun. Do whatever it takes to create some element of your workout that you look forward to, other than the results. My cardio days are a treat for me, but it's because I made them that way. I have my treadmill in the room in my house with the big television. So, I put an episode of my favorite show on Hulu, mute the TV, activate the closed captioning, get my headphones on and go. 

Resort to bribery. You can bribe yourself. It's totally fine. I do it all the time. Would a new workout tank make your workouts more appealing? Awesome, get your Etsy on. Would a shopping spree on iTunes mean that tomorrow you woke up itching to hit the treadmill? Sweet. Do it. The only thing I don't bribe myself with is food, because I don't want exercise to become a punishment or a price I have to pay in order to eat. But pretty much anything else is fair game.

Literally surround yourself with encouragement. Okay, this one I know is going to sound super-cheesy. But. I used to have a workout tank top that said, "Impossible is Nothing." And I loved it. I also used to have post-its with words of encouragement stuck to my bathroom mirror. I may, or may not, currently have a vision board with words and images that motivate me toward healthy choices. It probably doesn't sound "cool" but bathing my brain in positive, supportive, and sometimes funny messages does help. 

Put it in writing. Spend a few minutes writing down how you feel after your workouts. Do you feel ready to tackle the day? Do you feel stronger? More flexible? Less stressed? More awake? Being aware of how your body feels, both during and after exercise, can be a powerful motivational tool. For many people exercise is something they're glad they did after it's done. Remembering exactly why you're glad can help you start on days when enthusiasm is lacking.

Schedule it and eliminate roadblocks. Plan which workouts you're going to do each day and the time you are setting aside to do them. Write them in your planner. Add them to the calendar on your phone. Get your workout clothes laid out the night before. Make sure your water bottle is full and chilling in the fridge. Get your pre-workout snack ready to grab quickly in the morning. Make it as easy as possible to get from where you are to where you work out.

Never skip Mondays. Mondays are the first day of the week and making sure I get my workout in that day sets up the rest of my week for success. It's a mental thing. But it works.

I'd love to hear your tips for getting motivated for your workouts! Share them with us in the Comments section below.


There are joints in your body that are more unstable than others. Did you know that? Their instability makes them more prone to injury, especially when the muscles, ligaments and tendons surrounding them aren't healthy and strong. Score another point for strength and flexibility training, right?

Last month we showed a little love to our triceps, those muscles on the backs of our arms that often get too little of it. In keeping with the theme of getting to know and appreciate the muscles of our upper body, I wanted to write a little bit about shoulders. 

The "ball" at the top of the bone of your upper arm is actually larger than the "socket" of the joint in which it fits. So, the muscles, tendons and ligaments of the shoulder complex are responsible for keeping the joint stable and preventing dislocation and other injuries. 

It has the largest range of motion of all the joints in your body. The shoulder has only one bony attachment to the rest of your skeletal system, via the clavicle. This, combined with the shallowness of the joint (described above) is responsible for its wide range of motion. It moves laterally away from your body (abduction); it moves forward (flexion); it moves backward (extension); and it rotates laterally and medially. 

You use your shoulder muscles all the time. Anytime you reach overhead, lift and carry something in your arms, rake leaves--do any kind of manual labor really--you are placing demands on that complex structure. That doesn't even take into account any formal shoulder exercises you do in your strength-training routine. Overhead presses, front and lateral raises, upright rows, Arnold presses, planks and incline flyes are just a few examples. 

You see the results of training your shoulders more quickly than other muscles. While there are many differences between our individual bodies and where we carry extra tissue, the shoulder is a place where, universally, there is simply less tissue between the muscle and the skin. So, when you begin training the muscles of the shoulder and they increase in size, you see them relatively early compared to other muscles of the body. They have a nice shape as they get stronger, and the way they taper down your upper arm can make your arm appear smaller. 

Your shoulder is not just one muscle, but many. You've heard the term "rotator cuff," right? That refers to four small muscles that surround the shoulder joint (supraspinatus, subscapularis, infraspinatus and teres minor). They are responsible for holding the head of your humerus bone inside the shoulder joint. You don't see these muscles, but you need them to be as strong and as healthy as they can be. Then there's the deltoid muscle (you can see this one) and the teres major. This is a really short anatomy lesson, I know. But the point is that when you train the shoulder, you aren't just training one muscle, but several. 

I hope one or more of the little tidbits I shared above encourage you to spend some time on your shoulders. As I said in the triceps post, the more we know about our bodies and how interesting and amazing they are, the harder it gets to hate them. Many of us spend an inordinate amount of time criticizing them for not being the size, shape or whatever that we wish they were. What would happen if we shifted even half of that effort into celebrating them?

5 Moments I Loved From Today's Workout

In an effort to take the advice I'd give to a client, I'm trying to focus on what I love about my workouts. And it's not always easy...

Sometimes it's hard because I want to see different results than I'm seeing, or I want to see them faster. Sometimes it's hard because I'm in a bad mood, or I'm tired, or I'm distracted by something else I need to do that feels more important than squats, and biceps curls and planks. Sometimes it's hard because my muscles are sore from the day before, or because my knees are hurting more than usual. Sometimes it's hard because I'm doing a workout that's actually, objectively, more difficult than the one I did the day before. 

Because I know that the words we say to ourselves matter--that the things we focus on expand--I'm making a concerted effort to notice the moments during my workouts that are good. Some of them are physical, others mental/emotional. But here are five moments I loved today.

I listened to a beautiful version of the song, Riptide, during my cool-down. (You can watch the video here, if you're interested.) There's nothing like finding a new song to love, or in this case, a new version of a song I already knew. 

The house was quiet. Sometimes I crave silence. Probably because I so rarely ever get it at home anymore. Being awake while it was still dark outside and the house slept, felt like such a gift today. Soon enough other people were up and moving around and saying words :-)

Finally, finally, something felt easier. I've been doing this series of abdominal exercises over the last few weeks, and there's one exercise in particular that's just been...I don't just has felt difficult and like I wasn't quite strong enough to do it correctly. It just felt off. Anyway, today I noticed that while it was still challenging, I could finally feel my muscles engaging and doing the work.

My wobbly legs. Don't know why, but I love it when I finish a workout and my legs are kind of shaky. I got that today and relished that feeling as well as the feeling of stretching them out at the end of the session.

I had a much-needed moment of clarity. Exercise is one of the things I do to stay emotionally balanced, and to work out frustration or anger or fear about things that are going on in my life. While I was on the treadmill for the cardio portion of my workout today, I had a breakthrough in my thinking about a problem I've been having with one of my freelance clients. Not that I solved it, but there was a shift in the way I've been thinking about it that helped me to let go of some anxiety I've been carrying around. 

If you've never done it, I would highly recommend spending some time thinking about what you're grateful to your workouts for. Maybe it's not five things. Some days maybe you struggle to find one thing, while other days you could list ten. But the exercise of shifting your attention from what's uncomfortable or difficult about it, to what it gives you that's valuable, makes such a huge difference. 

Our Favorite Healthy Fast Foods

We always say healthy food should taste delicious, but have we mentioned it can also be really easy and convenient to eat healthily? In an ideal world would we all be cooking from scratch? Maybe. But how many of us exist in the world of ideal? The key is to recognize that ideal isn't always going to happen and to stock your kitchen accordingly. 

Here are a few of our favorite, convenient, packaged foods. You don't lose much, if any, in the way of nutrients with these.  Maybe you'll see some of your favorites here too...

Microwaveable Rice. Cooking rice from scratch isn't the most difficult thing in the world, but it does take time. And sometimes the 45-minutes to an hour is more time than I have, especially when I haven't given much thought to dinner. So, I usually have a box of microwaveable brown rice in the cupboard (I like Minute brand, which you can get at Target), and a box of jasmine rice from Trader Joe's in the freezer. When I need a whole grain, there they are.

Canned beans and pre-cooked lentils. It's cheaper to buy beans dry and then cook them. But again, time. So, I usually have a variety in the pantry in their canned form. The lentils I get from the produce section of Trader Joe's.

Rotisserie chicken. I mentioned this in another post recently, but Nikki swears by these. Probably more expensive than buying a fresh chicken and cooking it yourself, but way easier. If you take the time to break it down when you get it home, you can add chicken to salads, stir-fry's and burritos, among other things.

Frozen steel cut oats and Instant Cream of Wheat (whole grain version). These are great, quick breakfasts. I get my frozen steel cut oats from Trader Joe's and the Cream of Wheat you can find anywhere. Ready in minutes. 

Sweet potato spears. These are ready for a drizzle of olive oil, some seasonings and 30-minutes in the oven.

Nutter Puffs by PopChips. These are a great snack. Five grams of protein, less than 2-grams of sugar. 

Guacamole cups from Wholly Guacamole. I love guacamole, but I'm never going to make a batch just for myself. I get these from Costco, but they're probably available everywhere. I usually dip vegetables or whole grain tortilla chips in them. 

Fresh whole wheat pizza dough. I always have a ball of this in my fridge. I often make lentil calzones out of it, but you can throw vegetables and a little cheese and/or leftover meat inside too for a quick dinner. 

Jarred sauces. There is nothing like homemade marinara or pesto sauce. But there are some jarred versions that are good in a pinch too. I know I mention Trader Joe's a lot, but they really do a good job stocking pre-packaged food that's fairly healthy. Their roasted garlic marinara is especially good and I've had a pesto from there that's also delicious. Just check the sugar content on any jarred sauce you buy. Sometimes they sneak a lot of that stuff in there. But a little whole grain pasta and some jarred sauce is a quick weeknight dinner. 

Frozen vegetables. You really don't lose many of the nutrients of the fresh version when they're flash frozen. Heat them up with some rice, edamame or some chicken for a quick stir-fry.

There you have it. Some of our favorite ways to make eating healthy as easy as possible. Feel free to share your favorites below!

Burpee is a Bad Word

We used to have a banner at the top of our website that said, "No Weighing. No Measuring. No Burpees. See You Soon." I feel like we've addressed why we don't weigh or measure in several posts, but I don't think we've ever talked about why we don't do burpees. 

For those of you who have never had the pleasure of the burpee experience, here's a quick description. A burpee, also known as a squat thrust, is a four-count combination exercise popular in both cardio and strength training classes. You begin in a standing position; drop down into a squat with your hands on the floor in front of you; jump your legs backward and drop into a plank position; return quickly to the squat position; and finally, stand back up. You repeat this many, many times. Until you are left questioning every life choice that got you to a place where burpees are a thing you do. Maybe that last part's just me.

Anyway, I hate doing them. But I also hate them as an exercise for clients for many reasons. Chief among them is that there are so many ways to injure yourself, even if you do them correctly. The pressure you're putting on your wrists and your shoulders alone makes them risky to do even once, let alone in the quantity and at the speed in which they're typically done. 

In addition, they are so physically unpleasant that they negate the outcome we're trying to achieve with every client. We want exercise to be, at the very least, doable. And our dream scenario is that exercise becomes something that the client actually likes and looks forward to. If we make them miserable, what are the chances that they come back for their next session let alone develop a lifelong, positive relationship with exercise? 

Trainers who advocate for burpees will usually cite one of three reasons why. One is that a burpee is a plyometric exercise for the lower body. Plyometrics, sometimes called jump training,  falls under the category of advanced exercise. They require your muscles to exert a maximum amount of force in a short amount of time. Things like jump squats are examples of plyometric exercises. We would only introduce plyometrics to an experienced client who we knew was strong enough to do them correctly. And we'd watch their form like a hawk. So, the it's-a-plyometric-exercise argument doesn't really carry much weight with us.

The second burpee argument I've heard is that they're an upper body/total body exercise. Great. But, so are lots of other things. Push-ups and elbow planks, to name just two, and they're way safer. 

And finally, you'll hear people say burpees add a cardiovascular challenge to strength-training routines. Again, there are a lot of other ways to achieve this result that are safer. Moving quickly from one resistance exercise to the next, aka circuit training, can also add a cardio element to your session.

So, the reason that we don't do burpees can be distilled down into this: they're risky, and there are other exercises that achieve better results, with less risk and that result in a much more pleasant workout experience for our clients. 

What do you think of burpees? Do you do them? Do you love them? Hate them? Want ideas for other exercises you could do instead? Leave your thoughts below.

Don't Wait on the Weights

Does weight-lifting intimidate you? Maybe you had a bad experience in high school gym class and have avoided the weight rack ever since. Or are you afraid that if you strength train you'll get bulky? Or do you believe that cardio is the key to weight loss, and strength-training shouldn't enter the equation until after you've reached your goal weight? 

Here's what I would tell you in response to those concerns: it shouldn't; you won't; and untrue, respectively. Let's address each of them one by one though. As always, I recommend consulting a physician before beginning any exercise program. 


The intimidation factor. The good news is that I'm not telling you to buy a gym membership and start racking hundreds of pounds on the bench press bar tomorrow. You don't need to do that. I recommend having two sets of dumbbells--one lighter set for the smaller muscles of your upper body, and one heavier set for the larger muscles. When I started, I had a set of 3lb dumbbells and a set of 5lb ones. Then I moved up incrementally as I got stronger. The 5lb dumbbells became my light set and I bought 8lb dumbbells for my heavier set. Then I moved up again to 8lbs and 10lbs. And so on. I knew it was time to upgrade when I finished a set of an exercise and knew I could keep going, with good form.

Let me tell you, I LOVE when I have to buy new dumbbells. I feel so proud of myself and my body. That's one of the great things about strength training is that I can see and feel improvements in a way that I don't necessarily with cardio. If you aren't sure how to go about strength training on your own, you have a couple of options. Invest in DVDs you can do at home. Any of Jessica Smith's workouts would be a good choice. I use this one and this one quite often myself. I also like these ones from Coach Nicole and SparkPeople.

If you're new to exercise I would recommend at least a session or two with a personal trainer. If training this way isn't something you can afford to do regularly, you have some options. Take the workout DVDs you're going to do at home and ask him/her to watch them and then coach you on proper form. That way, you'll have some idea of how to do the exercise safely and effectively on your own. Or ask them to design a workout you can do at home with the equipment you have, and then come back every 6-weeks or so for some new exercises. 


You won't get bulky. This is one I hear a lot, actually. It's rare for a woman who engages in a normal strength-training routine to get bulky. Women have less testosterone than men, and it's this hormone that is responsible for the larger muscle gains men experience from weight-lifting. You may find that strength-training actually has the opposite effect on your body. A pound of muscle takes up less space than a pound of fat, so your body can look and feel smaller at the same weight, depending upon the ratio of lean muscle to fat. 


And finally, the old do-cardio-first -to-lose-weight rule. Any of you who read this blog regularly or are familiar with our studio know that we never talk about weight loss as a goal of exercise. And I'm still not really going to. But...I am going to address it in this context for two reasons. One: because the idea that you do cardio for weight loss and then worry about strength-training is a fitness theory we reject as fitness professionals. And two: because regardless of whether we think weight-loss should be a goal, the reality is that it is why many women start exercising. So, for us not to address it at all seems irresponsible.

Here's the short version of why we recommend an exercise plan that combines cardio exercise and three days each week of strength-training: it's more efficient and effective.

It's generally true that if you engage in cardiovascular exercise (walking, running, biking, etc.), and change nothing about your diet, that you will run a caloric deficit. Meaning, you will burn more calories on the days you do that exercise than on the days you don't, which may lead to weight-loss. But muscle is more metabolically active than fat, 24-7. So by increasing your lean muscle mass you burn more calories at rest every day, not just on the days you work-up a deficit by spending an hour on the treadmill. There are many good reasons to include cardio in your workout plan (I do it), but focusing on it to the exclusion of strength, flexibility and balance-training is a mistake. That's true whether your goal is weight-loss or just being holistically healthier and fitter.  

If there are other reasons you're reluctant to weight-train, leave them in the comments below and I'll do my best to address them in a future post. Take care, friends!

Health, Fitness, Beauty and Food Hacks You Need in Your Life

We love hacks that make life easier or less expensive, especially when it comes to health and fitness. Those things just feel so difficult sometimes, don't they? Anyway, here are a few little things we've discovered that make taking care of ourselves so much more doable. 

Swap out shave gel for conditioner. Depending on which brand you choose, it's way cheaper per ounce than shave gel. I love the scent of a particular $2.99 bottle of Herbal Essences conditioner and now I buy it exclusively for this purpose. An added bonus is that I've noticed that if I forget to put on lotion after shaving my legs, when I use conditioner, they don't get itchy and irritated. I think because of the moisturizing ingredients in the conditioner...Shampoo is a good substitute for more expensive body washes too. 

Build your workout one minute at a time. When you're new to exercising, maybe you can only do 5-minutes at a time. But try adding 1-minute each day until you reach 30. An extra minute usually feels doable and you'll be at your target minutes in no time.

Swap a music playlist for the clock. If you find yourself glancing at the clock every few minutes, willing your workout to get done faster, you know it does the opposite. It makes the time drag even more. Instead, build a playlist of songs that's exactly as long as you want to exercise and use it as your timer. It's way more fun to let songs mark the time than the secondhand on your watch.

Want your perfume to last longer? Spray it behind your knees, inside your elbows, behind your ears or in your hair to get the best wear time out of your scent. 

Want to sneak some movement into your work day? Try walking meetings. How many Friday afternoons did I spend trapped in an office or conference room for meetings that could have just as easily been mobile? Too many. Get outside, breathe some fresh air and get some work done. 

Dry your hair with an old t-shirt instead of a towel. It dries faster, I swear. 

Tennis balls and frozen water bottles make great foot massagers. Fill the water bottles about 3/4 full and then freeze them. Rolling your tired feet over tennis balls or frozen bottles of water is so soothing. 

Now for some food hacks...

Rotisserie chickens are your friend. Already cooked chickens are a great time-saver. Pull the meat off of them when you get home and store it in the fridge, ready to be tossed on top of a salad, rolled up in a burrito, or thrown in a stir-fry. Nikki does this a lot. 

Buy some bagged salad mix. You can get greens in your system in a matter of seconds. I used to take them to work with me and store them in the fridge for lunches. 

Swap pasta for spaghetti squash. This is a relatively painless way for those of us who struggle with liking vegetables to get more of them in our diets. If you've never tried it before, spaghetti squash is a yellow, oval-shaped squash that when cooked, can be scraped out into spaghetti-like strands. Smother it in your favorite pasta sauce and enjoy. 

Convenient food can be healthy food. There are so many healthy foods that are also easy to prepare. I often buy pre-cooked brown rice, so I can get a whole grain on my plate even if I haven't thought about dinner until I'm ravenously hungry and don't want to wait an hour for it to cook from scratch. Trader Joe's has a bunch of rice options in their frozen section that can be ready in minutes. I also love substituting riced cauliflower for real rice sometimes. And again, Trader Joe's sells that stuff already riced and ready to use. 

Any hacks you've found recently that you want to share for the good of the blog? You can do that below. Hope some of these were helpful! 

Recipes You Must Try!

Hi all! We've been cooking up a storm lately and have some new recipes to recommend. These are easy and delicious and healthy. Nope, those things aren't mutually exclusive, we swear :-) What follows is proof. 

These Berry Streusel Bars from Happy Go Lucky blog. As an aside, the berry topping on these would be really good on the Chocolate Fudge Avocado Cake we posted in our April Favorites post...

Egg Muffins from Two Peas and Their Pod. These are like omelets in a muffin tin. You can use any fillings you like. Nikki didn't use the exact ingredients in this recipe, but followed the cooking instructions. You can do the same.

Salsa Fresca Chicken from Easy Family Recipes. Nikki suggests salting your chicken the night before. It prevents it from drying out. 

Greek Yogurt Blueberry Pancakes from Ambitious Kitchen. A quick note on these: check the labels on your Greek yogurt. Some are really low in protein and high in sugar. You want the reverse. We like the Fred Meyer brand, but I'm sure there are others that are good too.

Cauliflower Fried Rice from The Recipe Critic. You can save yourself some time on this one if you purchase already riced cauliflower. Trader Joe's sells it, so do many other stores. 

Seed Crackers from Quite Good Food. A really good substitute for chips when you need something salty and crunchy.

Strawberry Chia Seed Jam from the Gluten-Free Vegan Pantry. Super easy. No pectin or gelatin required. 

Coconut Rice with Pineapple and Cashews from Carlsbad Cravings. This one I made often a while back and then kind of rediscovered it recently. It's delicious. 

Chocolate Strawberry Oatmeal from Bakerita. 

Let us know if you try any of them and if you do, what you thought!

April Awesomeness

Every month we try to collect the things that are making our lives easier, better, funnier, healthier, etc., and share them with you in this space. Here's what we've come across this month. Hope you enjoy!

This Inhale-Exhale Tank from Not by Sight Co. Because sometimes we just need to wear a reminder to breathe. 

These colorful leggings from Zella. They come in several colors and a wide range of sizes. Love the green ones!

SNL Leggings Sketch. I do actually workout in leggings, but I also sometimes eat tortilla chips in them. It's about balance, people.

Chocolate Fudge Avocado Cake. Nikki made this cake recently and raved about it. She found it in the Costco magazine, I believe...

Jergen's Natural Glow Daily Moisturizer. Okay, so I am really pale. Like translucent. And sometimes I want a little color on my legs, especially on days when I'm wearing cropped workout leggings. Which is pretty much every day, if I'm honest. This stuff isn't like tan-in-a-can though. It's subtler and more forgiving than that. After a few days of using it, I ended up with a really nice, natural looking, light bronzing to my skin. And it smells good too.

Aveeno's Positively Radiant 60-Second In-Shower Facial. I LOVE this stuff! My skin looks brighter on days when I use it, I swear. 

My favorite hairspray of all time. It holds well, but doesn't make your hair stiff and helmet-like. And it smells amazing. I never pay full price for it though. It goes on sale fairly often, so I stock-up then. 

I always forget about how good Neutrogena's lip products are. There's this color stick, which I have in Sweet Watermelon. It's a nice color and feels moisturizing. Kind of like a lip balm consistency with the color payoff of a lipstick. And then there's their Revitalizing Lip Balms. I have mine in Petal Glow. I've been using both of these a lot lately and wondering why I don't use them more.

The book, Start With Why, by Simon Sinek. A great read for any entrepreneurs out there. 

Okay, that's what we're loving this month! Feel free to share any of your current recommendations in the comments below. Happy Monday, all!

Cheat Days Don't Work for Me

Every Tuesday I go out to my brother's house for dinner. It started as Taco Tuesdays, but then morphed into Pizza Tuesdays. The appeal of this particular change was that throwing a take-and-bake pizza in the oven was way quicker and cheaper than putting together a full-on taco bar every week. 

At some point we decided it was silly not to have some dessert too, so it became pizza followed by ice cream sundaes. After dinner we streamed episodes of some of our favorite shows for a while, and usually felt the need for popcorn and candy at some point mid-stream. 

So, Taco Tuesdays became Pizza-Sundaes-Popcorn-Candy-and-Soda Tuesdays. My brother called it his "cheat" day. 

But one problem for me in thinking of it that way, was that it created a dynamic in which there were good foods and bad foods. One where my "diet"  became something to rebel against on that one day every week. And rebel I did. 

The other problem is that I never felt good after. I like eating pretty cleanly most of the time. So, having one day every week that was on the extreme opposite end of the spectrum, left me feeling kind of hungover, for lack of a better description. Every Tuesday I shocked my system with a large quantity of food and chemicals it wasn't used to eating, and then on Wednesdays I'd essentially have to detox from it. I felt gross.

The "cheat" day paradigm just isn't my jam. Maybe there's a way people do it that doesn't feel as disordered. But physically, emotionally and mentally, it's just not healthy for me

Instead, I...

Focus on making my healthy, clean food taste amazing. I wrote a post last week about how healthy and delicious should not be mutually exclusive. Check it out here. There is absolutely no reason that eating nutritious food should feel like a punishment.

Remember that it's not all or nothing. Pizza Tuesdays are not over. But, if I have pizza I'm almost always going to bring a green salad and some fresh fruit too. I look for healthier dessert options (apple nachos and chickpea chocolate clusters are two of my current favorites) and mostly choose those when I want something sweet. If, on balance, my diet is 80-percent clean, whole foods and 20-percent not-so-clean and not-so-whole, than I'm happy with that. It's just that having that 20-percent spread out over seven days is a better approach for me than saving that 20-percent for one or two meals. And if I have a week or a day when that 80:20 ratio feels reversed (and I do), I just try to regain my balance the next day or the next week. 

Words matter, so I choose them carefully. Words are powerful. "Cheat" is not a good word for me to use when it comes to food. It drives me to behave in unhealthy and extreme ways with eating. I don't label foods as "good" or "bad" either, for the same reason. 

I wanted to write this post because sometimes we hear other people talk about food in ways that don't ring true for us. And when it's pervasive enough, we can start to feel like there's something wrong with us if we can't make that approach work. If a "cheat" day  knocks you off-kilter and you struggle the rest of the week to get back to a balanced place, then it probably isn't right for you. That's totally okay. We all just try different approaches until we find what works for us. 

When a Client is Stronger Than You Are

It's difficult to become something you can't see. That's the reason I wrote the post about the value of body size diversity within the personal trainer community. This week I want to address a specific concern I hear a lot from aspiring trainers--what to do if you have a client who is stronger than you in some way, or is ready for exercises that you aren't able to demonstrate?

My philosophy on this is pretty simple. I don't need to be able to do every exercise at its most advanced level. What I do need to be able to do is to communicate how to do an exercise properly. Sometimes that's me demonstrating exactly what I want them to do, and other times it's explaining it in words. And both of those things work just fine.

The other thing is that people don't hire me to exercise with them. They hire me because I have expertise that's of value to them, because I create workouts that are fun and effective for them, and because I keep them safe while they exercise. So, a workout isn't ever about what I can do. It's about what the client can do and what I can teach them to do. Does that make sense? I don't always demonstrate my full range of motion on an exercise with a client who maybe isn't as strong as I am. Conversely, I don't need to be able to demonstrate what a client who is stronger than me can do, in order to be effective as a trainer.

An assumption that a lot of trainers make is that the only reason a client is looking to hire a trainer is to lose weight. There are myriad reasons why someone decides to exercise that have nothing to do with getting thinner. Which brings me to the last point I want to make: focus on your strengths as a trainer and the right clients will find you.

Think about a university and the diversity of expertise it contains. You wouldn't expect a math professor to teach you all about history, or a biology professor to help you become a great writer. They each have their little corner of academia and that's where they live. You will have that too as a fitness professional. You won't be the right trainer for everyone. But you will be the right trainer for someone--many someones, hopefully :-)

If you have specific questions about becoming a trainer, wherever you're starting from, please leave them below and I'll do my best to answer. You can also email me directly at if you'd rather your comment remain private.

Amazing (and Healthy!) Recipes You Need to Try

I LOVE food. And I get really excited about my meals. That goes for my healthy meals too, because I won't live in a world where I have to choose between something that tastes good and something that's good for me. I just won't. I try tons of recipes every month, and I'd say if three out of ten are good then it's a win. Here are some of my favorites from the past month.

Lemon-Asparagus Risotto from My Darling Vegan. I left out the peas because, fun fact, I find them revolting. I always have. To me, cooked peas are bitter and I can't understand how anyone can eat them. But if you love them, then toss them in like the recipe suggests. Because I don't eat meat or dairy as a general rule, I throw some roasted garbanzo beans in with the risotto to make it more of a complete meal. Here's my go-to recipe for that from the Oh She Glows blog.

Sweet and Spicy Cauliflower from The Fitchen. Vegetables are hard for me. I really have to either sneak them into my food in a way that I essentially can't taste them, or I have to find ways to cook them with enough flavor that I find them palatable. These are really, really good. 

Easy Lentil Bolognese Sauce from Pasta-Based. Great on pasta or spaghetti squash. Have you guys tried spaghetti squash yet? So good.

Avocado Bruschetta with Balsamic Reduction. This one's from Damn Delicious blog. You pour reduced balsamic vinegar on anything and I'll probably eat it. This is so good and full of things that are good for you. And all on toasted sourdough bread. Yum.

Roasted Brussels Sprouts with Cranberries and Balsamic Reduction from Platings and Pairings. Again with the reduction, I know. But it really is magic. 

Chickpea and Chocolate Clusters from Nest & Glow. If you need a chocolate fix, there are way worse ways to get it than these. They are a combination of semi-sweet chocolate chips and roasted chickpeas. That's it. So, you get fiber and protein that you don't normally get from a chocolate bar with these things. Really nice snack or dessert when you just need something sweet. 

Frozen Snickers Bars and Bites from Feeding Your Beauty. Yep, I said "Snickers" in a post about healthy recipes. These are a little more work than the chocolate clusters above, but so worth it. 

Chipotle Lentil Soup from Platings and Pairings. This one wins because you just dump everything in a slow cooker and forget about it. I love recipes like that. Sometimes I do corn bread with this, and it's a nice combo. 

Okay, that's the best of the recipes for March! If you've got any you love, feel free to share the links below.

The Fitness Question I Get Most Is...

Hi friends! A quick post from me today with the answer to a question I've gotten quite a lot. People are often curious about how often they should be exercising, and what that exercise should be (cardio, strength-training, flexibility, etc.). Every body is different, so take what I'm going to suggest and run it through the filter of your own sense of what's reasonable for you. Or, share it with your physician if you're new to working out and make sure that he or she thinks it's safe.

What follows is the general schedule I followed when I was first getting into exercise and I think it's a fairly reasonable one. 

I only did 30-minutes a day of any kind of exercise. That was all I had time for and all I had the energy to do. Sometimes I broke that 30-minutes up into smaller sessions (three, 10-minute bouts, for example). 

Three times each week I spent that 30-minutes doing some kind of strength training. When I was first starting out, that meant exclusively exercise DVDs. I wrote a post with some recommendations, which you can access here. Jessica Smith has some great ones and many of them are 30-35-minutes. I love this one. And this one, which is a 6-week program with several DVDs to rotate through. Or you can find 10-minute workouts on Pinterest or YouTube and do one in the morning, one at lunch and one at the end of the day, if shorter is better for you. There are tons of those. I left at least one day in between strength training sessions for rest or for some kind of cardio exercise.

Once or twice each week I took an active rest day, where I just did some gentle yoga, went for an easy walk or did some stretching. Just gives your body some time to recover, which is essential for building strength.

And then 2-3 times each week, depending upon how many rest days I took, I'd do some cardio exercise. For me that meant walking. Walking is great exercise! It's low impact, you don't need any equipment, and you can do it anywhere. I like to walk outside, but I also love putting some music on and walking on the treadmill.

Hope that helps give you some ideas! Again, you don't have to do what I did. I just know that when I was starting out I really had no idea how to build a program for myself, so something like this would have helped me. If you're really not sure what's good for you, or if you're new to working out, I would encourage you to talk to your physician or spend an hour with a trainer in your area and ask them to help you put together a plan. 

Why We Need You

This post is for you. It is. All of you aspiring personal trainers. And it's for those of you who aren't quite ready to call yourself "aspiring," but feel the dream of it tugging at your heart every now and then. It's for those of you who wonder whether you have the right to dream that dream if you don't have six-pack abs, or if you've never seen anyone who looks remotely like you represented in media depictions of the fitness world. 

I'm here to tell you that you do. And I would argue that the fitness industry actually needs you to achieve that dream. That the two-thirds of the U.S. population who are clinically overweight or obese, especially need you.

I wasn't always a regular exerciser. I wasn't always a trainer. I wasn't a lifelong athlete. I was an indoor kid with poor coordination and a tendency to use food for comfort. My body responded  by putting on weight. 

My experience with being overweight was that it was physically and emotionally uncomfortable. It may not be that for every overweight person, but I can only speak from my own experience of it. For me, exercise was difficult and sometimes painful. Gyms intimidated me because I didn't know what I was doing and I feared that the other people there were judging me. Worse, the modes of exercise that appealed to me at the time seemed to naturally draw graceful people. Thin people. Not-me people. To put it simply, exercise was a place I felt I didn't belong. For a long time.

We are all products of our experiences. Well, maybe more specifically, products of the stories we tell ourselves about those experiences. My experience as an overweight person eventually shaped my decision to pursue personal training as a career, and shapes how I do what I do now, as a trainer.

Your struggles with your own body, whatever they may be, will shape you as a fitness professional too. Maybe for you it isn't being overweight. Maybe it's that you have an injury or condition that limits your mobility in some way. Maybe you've dealt with an eating disorder in the past. I don't know. 

But I do know this: if you are willing to be vulnerable, if you are willing to share what's real and true about you, it will be the very thing that makes your clients choose you. People opt for genuine over perfect and empathetic over clinical, almost every time. This is especially true when they are navigating intimidating situations, such as working out or, even, choosing a doctor. They want someone who "gets" them, whether they articulate that to you or not. . 

If you are interested in becoming a trainer but are insecure about your body for any reason, what I'm telling you to do may go against every instinct you have. I'm basically telling you to highlight it. To draw attention to it. To admit you aren't perfect. To tell your story so that prospective clients can see themselves in it.

Nikki was the first personal trainer I hired. When I looked at her website I spent my time on one page, primarily: her bio page. She wrote about her eating disorder, history of poor body image, and the damage she'd done to herself with unhealthy choices. Her journey wasn't exactly like mine, but it didn't matter. The fact that she struggled in some way made me feel like she understood how it felt to be where I was. When we met in-person that sense was reinforced, and it was that personal connection--her ability to empathize with me--that made me choose her. 

What about you? If you've hired a trainer before, what was most important to you in making your selection? Did you need to know their body fat percentage, or were other things bigger factors in your decision? How can you apply that knowledge to how you present yourself to prospective clients? 

Always feel free to reach out to myself or Nikki if you are an aspiring trainer with questions! You can leave a Comment below or contact us here

Secrets to Making Midday Workouts Work

When I was working my full-time office job, I had good intentions when it came to exercise. Each night I would set my alarm for 5am, which would give me plenty of time to fit in a workout. And then my alarm would go off at 5am and I'd think, "I will feel much more like exercising after work than I do now." Snooze button hit.

But the thing was that I never felt like working out after work. I was exhausted by the time I got home. So, I'd give myself a pass--skipping one day won't hurt--and make big plans to go to bed early that night. That way, when my alarm went off at 5am the following day, I would bounce out of bed and into my workout clothes. 

And....that never happened. What I ultimately ended up doing was fitting my exercise in during my breaks at work. But that provided its own set of challenges--namely how to get myself looking, smelling and feeling presentable for the part of my work day that took place after my workout. 


One part of the solution was to have the right products available to me at work. I kept a pair of workout shoes and a set of workout clothes in my office, so that I didn't have to remember to bring them with me in the morning when I was rushing out of the house to get to work. I also kept a bag with some post-workout refresh essentials, including:

Deodorant Wipes. I love these ones from Pacifica, but I'm sure other brands sell them too. 

Dry Shampoo. This was a lifesaver when I had a more intense workout and my hair ended up a little sweaty or windblown or whatever. Dry shampoos just soak up that moisture at the roots of your hair, and refresh the scent a bit. My favorite is this one from DryBar, but it's expensive. I also really like Batiste brand, and Hask makes a good one. Both of those are a little less expensive. 

A Washcloth, Hand Towel, and Travel-Size Body Spray. This is basically a makeshift bath kit. 

Travel-Size Facial Spray. I love this one from Mario Badescu. It's inexpensive and it smells like one of those high-end day spas. I'd just spray a little mist of this on my face to refresh my makeup after a workout. It was rare that I exercised hard enough that I had to reapply my makeup. But a little of this was so refreshing and kept my skin looking hydrated and alive. 

Travel-Size Powder and Blush. If my face was looking a little worse for wear after a workout, I found that all I needed was a little pressed powder and some blush to look like myself again. I would buy the travel-size versions and keep them in my bag. 

Make--Up Removing Wipes. I love these ones from Aveeno. These were great if I needed a bit more of a refresh than a mist of facial spray could give me.

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The second part of the solution was how I went about my midday workouts.

Let's say I wanted to get 30-minutes of exercise in each day. And let's say I couldn't, or didn't want, to do that all in one session. I would do 10-minute walks, three times a day--one during my morning break, one during my lunch break, and one during my afternoon break. There isn't a rule that you have to get all of your exercise in one long workout. Break it up as much as you need to, either for logistical reasons or because that's all you can take at one time.

On days when the weather prevented walks from being feasible, or on days when I just wanted to do something different, my phone was my friend. I was lucky enough to have my own private office with a door, so I could close it and do some YouTube yoga, or strength training exercise in there. I kept some resistance bands, a yoga mat and some weights in my office for that reason. If you don't have your own office, maybe there are other solutions. Are you allowed to reserve meeting rooms over the noon hour where you work? Could you do that once or twice a week?

Are there other people in your office who would like to work out with you? There are personal trainers who will come to you and lead a session. If you got a couple of friends together you could split the cost and have a workout with a trainer, without having to spend any of your limited break time driving to a gym. 

I hope some of these tips are helpful to you as you try to fit exercise into your day! If any of you have found things that work particularly well in making midday exercise work, please share below. 


Why I Love the Backs of My Arms and You Should Too

How often do you think about the backs of your arms? We see our biceps much more often and much more easily than our triceps. But just because they're hiding out there on the back side of our bodies, doesn't mean they aren't worthy of attention and appreciation. I have been guilty in the past of thinking of them as simply the jiggly part of my arm, aka the reason I wouldn't go sleeveless in the summer. 

But, I think the more we learn about our bodies and the miraculous things they do for us on a daily basis, the harder it is to hate them. And your triceps are no exception. Here are some fun facts about those little powerhouses on the backs of your arms.

You use them every time you straighten your arm. Pushing a door closed? Shoving a suitcase into the overhead bin of an airplane? Throwing a ball? Writing? All of these activities, and so many more, require the participation of your triceps.

Your triceps are actually a larger muscle than your biceps. Yep, it makes up about 2/3 of your arm. The average triceps muscle is twice as large as the average biceps muscle.

It helps to keep your shoulder in line. Your shoulder is an amazing joint. It has the biggest range of motion of any joint in your body, able to rotate in many directions. Because of this, it's also an unstable joint. Strong, healthy triceps help to stabilize it, so that it can function properly.

Your triceps are kind of like your biceps' bff. Triceps and biceps have an agonist/antagonist relationship. When one contracts, the other must relax. Let's use a biceps curl as an example. As you curl the weight up to your shoulder, your biceps muscle contracts and shortens while your triceps relax and elongate. But, as you bring the weight back down the roles switch. Your biceps muscle relaxes and elongates, while your triceps contract and shorten. It's a really cool relationship, and one that I didn't recognize until I started studying to be a trainer. 

It has three heads. The "tri" in its name is a clue :-) One head originates on your shoulder blade, and the other two originate on your humerus (upper arm bone). They unite partway down your arm, attaching to your elbow.

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There you have it--an introduction to your sweet triceps. I hope you love them just a little bit more now! And one way to show your appreciation is to strengthen them so that they can do their best for you. There are several triceps exercises I like, but here's one you can do just using your body weight: Triceps Dips.

When You Worry That You Aren't Enough...

This is a post I've wanted to write for a long time. I haven't written it, but not because I don't think it's an important conversation. I guess I haven't written it because it's such a loaded topic. It's one that, for other trainers who've spoken about it, has generated some pretty extreme reactions. So, to be completely honest, I personally just haven't felt prepared to tackle it or the potential response to it before now.

The "it" in this conversation is whether or not you can be a great personal trainer if you don't look like a fitness model--if you are, by standard measurements, considered overweight yourself. While I hope that everyone gets something out of this post, I am directing it at those of you who want to be a personal trainer. And it's especially directed at those of you who think you can't be an effective one unless you look a certain way.

I know that this is a real thing that prevents some people from pursuing careers in fitness. It wasn't an issue that came up for me when I was deciding to become a trainer. However, it did manifest itself in a different way later in my career, which I'll get to in a minute. 

I became a personal trainer because so many people were asking me to train them that it seemed like a viable business. I honestly never worried that people wouldn't hire me because of the size of my body, whatever it happened to be at any given time. That's proven to be true over these last fifteen years, by the way. I've been smaller than I am now. I've been bigger than I am now. And it just has not affected my ability to get clients.

Let me back-up for a minute though and tell you my story and then I'll get into my advice for those of you who are thinking about a fitness career.

I was working for a fitness equipment retailer in 2003, and was so bored at work that I spent a lot of time reading the exercise books and fitness magazines that were lying around the store.  I started to talk about what I was learning, and to play around with exercises while I was working in the store. People (customers, people who worked in neighboring stores, friends) then began asking me to train them or give them fitness advice. I was reluctant to do that without having some kind of formal education and certification, so I got certified and started a personal training business. 

Just because I didn't worry about people not hiring me doesn't mean that I was without any insecurities. I didn't attend a single professional development event or conference, in-person, for my first seven years as a trainer. I was worried that the other trainers would judge me. I thought they would think I didn't belong there. 

When I finally did begin attending conferences what I found was that there was a very diverse population of body types, shapes and sizes represented among the trainers at these events. There were people smaller than me, yes. But there were also people my size and larger. And what was also true was that I learned so much from the other trainers I met, that I can't help but think how much more I could have learned if I had gotten out of my own way sooner. I was guilty of assuming that all trainers looked a certain way, and that I was the lone exception. That simply wasn't true.


Okay, so if you are someone who dreams of a career in fitness and really wants to help others live healthier happier lives, but you're insecure about the size/shape/whatever of your body, here's what I'd say to you. 

Do it anyway. Don't wait until you think you've reached whatever you define as physical perfection. My weight goes up and down, depending upon what else is going on in my life. I had a major trauma a little over a year ago. The stress of that has made exercise and other self-care activities almost impossible sometimes. I'm not working out as regularly or as hard as I have done in the past. But I do what I can do, and I'm honest with clients about my struggles and my successes. That doesn't make me perfect, but it does make me real. And my experience has been that people respond to what's genuine, not what's perfect.

Start to see your struggles, whatever they are, as an asset and not a professional liability. I cannot tell you the number of times clients have told me that they picked me as their trainer because I wrote on my website about struggling with an eating disorder and body image issues. I was less intimidating because they knew that I knew what it was like to struggle. 

My level of knowledge and skill doesn't decrease or increase inversely with my clothing size. And yours won't either. 

I'm going to write more in the coming weeks about the different reasons why body diversity in the personal training community is so beneficial to clients, and I'll address some of the concerns I hear most often from trainers. In the meantime, if you have specific questions about becoming a trainer, please leave them below and I'll do my best to answer. You can also email me directly at if you'd rather your comment remain private.

Please Make Sure You Know This One Thing...

For me, the thing that has been a bit scary about venturing into the world of group fitness has been how often I use things I know, simply because I'm a personal trainer, to keep myself safe. It happens a lot. And I know it's happened to Nikki too.

It's really difficult to design a workout that's effective and safe for the wide variety of fitness levels an instructor sees represented in a class. And it's even more difficult to give the kind of personal attention and correction they'd like to each student, especially in classes the sizes of the ones you find in big gyms. An instructor can only be in so many places at once, right? This isn't a knock on small group fitness instructors at all. It's a difficult job and I have such admiration for the instructors who do it well. It's a specialized skill, that's for sure.

Small group classes are a great workout option for many people. It's less expensive than personal training. You get to experience a wide variety of exercise and you have the opportunity, when classes are managed well, to develop a strong support system among your classmates. So, I totally understand the draw. 

I've given some advice on this blog about how to approach group fitness classes--tips for getting the most out of them and for feeling less intimidated. But as Nikki and I have been talking about the topic lately, there's really one thing we can't emphasize enough. One thing that will serve you well, whatever shape your workouts take now or in the future. One thing we thought we needed to write a post about.

And that is: to know yourself and know your body before joining a group class. You must know when to slow things down; when and how to modify an exercise; and when to stop doing a particular exercise or workout. If you don't know these things, you run the risk of getting hurt. It is very, very difficult for a group instructor to know those things about you. No matter how good they are; you are the expert on you. You have to know what's good and safe for your body, and be empowered to act on those things in a group setting. 

That knowledge can come from practice; from experience. You can read-up on the mechanics of the body; you can research how to modify specific movements; you can try different things and notice what ranges of motion do and do not cause you pain. All are valid. But all take time.

The other thing you can do though is leverage the expertise of a personal trainer to speed up the process. Personal training on a regular basis is sometimes more than someone's budget will allow. But did you know that one or two sessions with a trainer can be enough to prepare you to thrive in your small group classes? You can literally tell a trainer the kinds of classes you're interested in taking and then ask them to help you learn how to stay safe.

Ask them how and when to modify something. Ask them what it should feel like when you're doing an exercise correctly, versus what feelings are signs that you're doing something that's going to lead to injury. Ask them how to know when to stop doing something altogether. Ask them how to know when it's okay to push through discomfort. They have knowledge to share and they want you to love exercise. You aren't going to love it if you hurt yourself or don't see any benefit from it.

So that's our one, overarching piece of advice when it comes to group fitness. It applies to at-home workouts too. If you're doing a workout DVD, the instructor can't see you and can't help you stay safe. You can do the same thing with workout DVDs as I suggest above--take it to a personal trainer and ask them to prepare you to do it effectively. 

Any questions, leave them below!